So, something's been on my mind lately. My brother-in-law is 25. He's very friendly, fun to hang out around, and generally very willing to help out when asked and everything like that. But I'm pretty worried about his future. Thing is, he's 25, a high school graduate, but he has almost no motivation to do anything with himself. His only job experience is McDonald's, which we pretty much had to press him into. Otherwise, he spends literally all day and night playing computer games (he once stayed up 24 hours just gaming). He lived with us for almost a year and a half. Originally, it was my wife who told me, and the purpose was so he could get a job on the British market (since they pay more here) and get a place of his own after a few months. Well, he pretty much just settled into our guest bedroom for a while until he even started looking for a job. Originally he just took temp jobs for a while before we finally managed to convince him to apply at McDonald's. And admittedly, he flourished well enough there; he was a model employee, covered other people's shifts that couldn't for whatever reason, never took a sick day, never complained about his schedule or hours, etc. But then decided he was gonna up and quit (he simply told my wife while we were back home at Christmas that he was quitting and moving back to Bulgaria). So he quit and moved back to Bulgaria back in January where, you guessed it, he is allegedly job-hunting (applied at McDonald's), but I can only hazard a guess that he's spending his days much like he did while he was with us. His overall state of health I can't comment on, but he's about 300 pounds and hasn't seen a dentist in Lord knows how long. His father is about the same weight, and is a chain-smoking diabetic. I'm not sure how my wife made it out of there at 5'7" and 110 lbs with a very healthy diet outlook (she's a veggie and lean meat nut)...or maybe that's exactly why. I don't know. The issue is, my in-laws enable him to no end. They supply him with money whenever he asks for it. My mother-in-law bought him (through us) a $1,500 Alienware gaming laptop. I mean, I THINK they mean well; it was them that forced him to come live with us (which pissed me off to no end since they never ran it by me before my wife basically said, "He's coming to live with us."). So of course my worry is that if something happens to their Dad, which, and I hate saying it because I love the guy, is pretty likely, it will likely mean he will either be homeless or we'll be having to take care of him. I've discussed this with my wife, and she's more or less on the same page as me. And another issue is that we can't really FIND motivation for him. He doesn't care about women (or guys). He doesn't want to be in a relationship because they "cost too much money." Games? He's not playing Fallout 4 or Destiny. He's playing Settlers 3, GTA, etc. Games released 10-20 years ago that he is addicted to, and that are open-source, free-to-play, hackable, etc. This is a guy who, as much as it pains me to say it, I can very sadly easily see living the same day over and over again until the day he dies, and not being discovered for a month. Food is cheap and plentiful in Bulgaria; I can walk into any store with a $20 and walk out with half the damn inventory. Internet is free in his city, and electricity is cheap. So as long as he's doing the bare minimum, he's good to go. Maybe I just needed to vent, but jeeeeesus, I feel bad for him and wanna help him, but at the same time feel that he's 25 and at this point he should be on his own with the consequences of his decisions.