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OK so I got my CCW permit last week. So here is the question, my kid (who will be 12 in a month) knows about it and the other guns, but won't say anything to the EX 'cause he figures she'll get worked up. So do/should I inform her about the CCW?

I honestly don't know if she'll be a pain or not. Anybody here been in the same boat or have any advice?

 

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If you carry it onto her property, YES.
If you meet in a neutral locale, NO.
If you want her to know, YES.
If you don't want her to know, NO.

Well I don't go into her condo so the property problem is moot and I'm kind indeferent about telling her it's the question of do I have to? And can she cause problems if she knows

 

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Do you have any weapons around your son, and if so does she know?

That would be the only think I would really be worried about. Everything else is your business like the posters above said.

Yeah, but nothing loaded! I was considering broaching the subject of getting him into a gun safty class this summer by pointing out the fact that I have a 10/22 and I would feel better if he took the class. He's very level headed about guns so I'm not that worried but I think she might get uptight.

 

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That is what I was wondering.

The problem is that the child is hers too, and if she raised hell about you having weapons around the child or something similar, it may cause trouble for you especially if she got you in front of a gun hating judge.

I suppose a lot depends on whether your divorce was a friendly one, or her attitude to firearms.

I have a couple of friends that their ex's dont even want them taking their sons fishing because they know that would make the guys happy, you know?

Good luck!

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A friendly one, hmm, No. No it was not.

To give you an idea of what it turns out she was like, She spent 2 YEARS convincing everyone she knew that I was abusing her. Her mother used to threaten me in crazy subtle ways. But I didn't realize it because I had no idea what was going on. Around the time the Dixie Chicks had that song where the ladies kill the abusive husband, the ex's mom spent like 2-3 months going on and on about "how much I love that great song!" Now there I sit confused as can be as her mom HATES country. I wasn't untill I burned the ex when she tried to scam the $$ I agreed to pay back to her folks that they told me about this.

I stopped by their house to give them a Cashiers Check for 2 grand and they were all confused so I explained "in the divorce I agree to pay you back when my insurance check came" Then I drover over and gave the ex the $$ I agreed to give her to get out and when shee saw the amount she almost stared crying in front of me as I explained that I already dropped off her parents money.

That was 6 years ago. Her mom still makes me my favorite cupcakes on holidays. And sometimes has the ex deliver them :lol: If I pick up the boy at thier house they make me come in, sit down for a chat and a snack. Needless to say it drives the ex crazy

 

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Uraijit:
Yeah I do think it's very important that he learns gun safety, I'm mean I the last 2 years I've bought 7 and have a list of others that I want. And I live ina TINY place so thay are going to be close no matter what. I alos think he would enjoy shooting at the range with me and my shooting buddies. It's nice to see there are other people who feel like I do about parenting!

And please everyone don't think I'm knocking other posts! I really appreaciate the input. For now I'm leaning towards not telling her.
In MN you don't even have to tell a police officer unless he ASKS if you have a weapon. We have joint phys/legal custody with no support (other than I need to cover 1/2 his real bills but not bills for stuff she want for him) and even though she is required to carry health and dental on him sice my bennies at work are better than the ones shes had at the last 5 jobs I'm covering that.

I more than anything else just don't want to put the boy in the middle, you know? He does know I now carry only because Its on the right and he might see it in the car if my shirt slides up a bit or if he bumped into me in a store. And I didn't want him to say anything in public.

I still may broach the subjct of a safety class "because I have a little .22 plinker rifle" Then again I may just talk to the kid and see what he thinks. I don't want to put him in the position of having to lie to her.

If push comes to shove I don't thnk she'll try to go to court because he is hitting the age where I was when I decided I wasn't going to stay with my mom and her husband and moved in with my dad, and the ex knows this. I don't think she wants it to get to a point where a judge asks the kid what he wants. But she and the guy she was having the affair with have taken shots at me around the kid. And yep, he did tell me about it so we had the "hey they can say what they want it only bothers me I let it, so don't worry and don't get into it with them" talk.