Not liking my wife right now....

Discussion in 'Lounge' started by Rachgier, Nov 16, 2014.

  1. Rachgier

    Rachgier Administrator Staff Member

    I've got insomnia. Everyone in this country has a sleeping disorder to some extent if you listen to the medical community.

    For me, every once in a while, I'll go 3-5 days with no sleep. The problem is, I can't fall in to a deep sleep and after a 15-20 minute nap I pop up ready to run for another day. Anyone familiar with combat naps knows what I'm talking about.

    Here it is, day 5 with a massive one hour of sleep between 3 different naps. I make dinner, get the kids all settled in to the last half of a movie on Netflix that we started before dinner, and decide to go lay down and finally get a good night of sleep while the wife deals with the circus.

    I guess being in bed sans 3 pitbulls and a wife, my body and mind running on fumes, caused me to sprawl out over on to her side of the bed. So does she climb in to bed on my side or try to make do with a tiny slice of bed like I usually have to do?

    No, no she does not. As a matter of fact she does the complete opposite. She shakes me awake after only an hour of sleep. Combat nap complete and guess who is sitting here in the living room AOx3 listening to someone else power saw redwoods in the bedroom?

    She doesn't understand how I can't just roll right back over and pass out like she does. She sleeps 8 hours a night and takes a 2 hr power nap every day after work. I'm lucky if I get 6 hours of sleep a day.
     
  2. Visper

    Visper AK = Automatic Killer!?! Supporting Member

    I feel your pain Rach... Pretty similar situation here. I get about 4 hours sleep a night. My wife is a violent sleeper along with waking me up seemingly every chance she gets with the same old questions "did you lock the door" "Did you let the dog out" blah blah!

    I am pretty much like you, I can sleep for an hour and be good for a bit... but damn it would be nice to get 8 hours consecutive every now and then...

    Edit: my wife's idea of a power nap is 3 hours... ugh... my definition is a bit shorter (15-20 min)
     
    Last edited: Nov 16, 2014

  3. Rachgier

    Rachgier Administrator Staff Member

    Yeah, it's a remnant from the Corps that's been reinforced by the fire service. The problem is, now that I'm extended in to day 6, eventually I'm going to crash, and probably at a very inopportune time. I generally sleep during the day when my kids are at school. An insomniac with a third-shift ops internal clock is a bad combination when you're raising kids.
     
  4. ajole

    ajole Supporting Member

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    My Grandma and Grandpa slept in different bedrooms as long as I was aware of.

    Sometimes I think I understand that.:p

    Fortunately for me, my wife understands that I care, but I can't not snore, nor fix the fact that she can't sleep if I snore; and if she is coughing or something, she feels bad about the possibility that she may keep me awake, (not that she would, of course) so...sometimes I wake up and she's in another room.

    Add in the fact that she works either really early or late, so we only overlap in bed about 4 hours a day, and things aren't too bad.

    Life is ok here!

    Sorry Rach!:(
     
  5. Rachgier

    Rachgier Administrator Staff Member

    It's funny you mentioned snoring. She (my wife, not yours) and I were just talking about how I had a more regular sleep pattern when I had the sleep apnea issue really bad. After the corrective surgery I got much better sleep, just a lot less of it. I can't do sleep aids either. My system fights the effects and I ended up not sleeping at all.
     
  6. ajole

    ajole Supporting Member

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    Me too. Tried one once, my body just felt like something was wrong, I got nervous and unsettled, couldn't sleep either, and now felt really bad, too.:rolleyes:
     
  7. Visper

    Visper AK = Automatic Killer!?! Supporting Member

    I'm pretty sure we both snore (wife and myself) Its the main reason she usually goes asleep before me, to be out when I get there.

    She snores, I go to sleep, no problem right?

    Well no she wakes me up... saying MY snoring woke her up then asks questions I mentioned above... She goes back to sleep, I watch bad late night TV.

    But like I said, I can function on 4-5 hours sleep. The wife can't, so it is what it is.

    Hope you get a good nights rest sooner rather than later Rach!
     
  8. Hermitt

    Hermitt Hey! Get Off My Lawn! Member

    My wife and I have separate bedrooms for the last 4 years. She is also a night owl and watches tv and plays casino games on her tablet till 3 or 4 in the am. My bedroom (the master suite) is my 'man-cave' with all my hobbies.... computer, books, music, guns, guitars.... etc.... and I always get stuck with the cavalier king charles. This dog snores like nothing you've ever heard before in your life!!!!! I'm usually in bed by 10 and get up around 5:30 or 6, but I get woken up about every 2 hours by one of the dogs wanting to go outside...... :mad:

    When I'm not working, I still get up at 6, take the kid to the bus stop (1-1/4 miles away) at 7 and when I get back, I go back to bed for another 2 to 3 hours..... :p
     
  9. Rachgier

    Rachgier Administrator Staff Member

    I feel your pain on the snoring dog. Haze my oldest male sounds like a chainsaw with bad gas in it when he snores and his son, Little Man, is following in his footsteps at 4 months old. The dogs do sleep the night through though. No late night wake ups here. Not even from the pup.
     
  10. Visper

    Visper AK = Automatic Killer!?! Supporting Member

    Snoring from my dog I can deal with, he's a little rat terrier. Its the damn constant licking himself that drives me nuts!!
     
  11. Hermitt

    Hermitt Hey! Get Off My Lawn! Member

    Funny... we got 4 dogs (and 2 cats). The Cavalier is 6 years old and is 'hers' but sleeps in my room, the 7 year old Pug is mine, but sleeps with her, my 2 year old 'Sheriff' Rango the Shih-tzu sleeps all night, but her (adopted) 4 year old Yorkie needs to go outside about every 2 hours!

    Usually, that is not an issue, but about once a week, my wife goes down to Boise/Meridian and stays at her cousin's place for a day or two for grocery shopping and whatnot, and I get stuck with all 4 dogs and one of the cats! :eek:
     
  12. Rachgier

    Rachgier Administrator Staff Member

    3 dogs and 3 cats here. Unfortunately all 4 of your dogs are snack-sized for my 80lb male. Throw in a 50lb female and their 45lb male pup and it's a recipe for sh*tty sleep. lol

    At least the cats stay out of my face with the dogs in the bed.
     
  13. Hermitt

    Hermitt Hey! Get Off My Lawn! Member

    Over the years, we've had some medium sized dogs, mostly English Springers, I've had 2 Irish Setters and we once had a cinnamon colored Chow (about 70 pounds), but after the first shih-tzu (a rescue), never again will we ever get anything larger than our Cavalier. (who is over 20 lbs when she was only supposed to be around 12)

    Holly..... [​IMG]

    'Sheriff' Rango.... [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
  14. Rachgier

    Rachgier Administrator Staff Member

    Nice. I don't have recent pics of the pup or his mom but we just did the EOY vet visit so the weights are spot on. I probably mentioned it before but I've got all pits. I used to have a 120lb American male rottie and a 150lb German female a long time ago. They used to play with 16lb bowling balls and rail road ties. They snapped or ripped out everything short of logging chains wrapped around pine trees.
     
  15. moona11

    moona11 King of you Monkeys Lifetime Supporter

    Feel your pain Rach. Always was a night owl. With accident, military, and night terrors who wants to go to sleep. Got some new meds that help so I can sleep at night. But feel like crap most of the morning.
     
  16. Rachgier

    Rachgier Administrator Staff Member

    They had me on night meds but then I needed vyvanze in the morning to wake up. Going from chemically tired to chemically wired and back again almost caused me to lose the wife and kids so I self-weaned off the meds and told the doc where to get off. I want taking pills that made me become a manic depressive, bipolar cluster f*ck for two months.
     
  17. Bull

    Bull Just a Man Supporting Member

    I roll from days to nights every six weeks, 12 hour shifts... I'm stuck on about 5 hours sleep tops, no matter which shift I'm on.... My days off I hit 7 sometimes..... But my system thinks it needs to poop at 5:30 am, whether I want to sleep or not.... Then I'm usually awake. My wife also snores worse than me, and can fall asleep in about three breaths, so I also get the "turn over, you're snoring"..... And by the time I turn over, she's snoring.... And now I'm awake, laying there going wellllll F*%K!!!!!....
     
  18. And here I thought I was the only one. I work 2p-10p or 2p-2a.. 2-10, I usually get to bed by 1a.. I'm still up by 6a.. 2p-2a, I don't sleep past 7. If I see daylight, I'm wide awake. One night I woke up to pee. It was a full moon and I thought the sun was about to come up. Went to turn the coffee on. And the clock said 12:48. Didn't sleep the rest of the night. Everybody loved me that next day. I was like dealing with a grizzly bear.
     
  19. HiPointArmorer

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    My ex-wife never understood my insomnia, she thought I didnt want to sleep with her.
     
  20. EvilE424

    EvilE424 Death to Dishonor Lifetime Supporter

    Insomnia

    I never sleep - and my hubby sprawls into my side all of the time - I just suck it up. On a positive note I do some of my most creative stuff during those sleep deprived hours ....or I think its creative?