A fella I went to high school with has kidney disease. He's on a donor list. He's a good fella, worked with the Boys and Girls Club, etc. They're a good family. His sister also has cancer and she's a minister. She's gone through radiation and now she's going through chemo. I'd hate for their Mom to have to bury them both soon. Should I be tested as a kidney donor? Here's the deal. I have the worst luck on the face of planet Earth. If I get tested, because I think it's the right thing to do, I KNOW I'm going to be a match. And then with my luck, I'm either going to die on the table getting the damn thing out, or I'm going to get some kind of kidney disease myself in short order. Again with my luck, NO one would ever donate a kidney for me and I'm not some "hollywood person" who will get bumped up on the list. But if I get tested and I'm a match, I can't say no at that point. Ok, I wouldn't say no at that point. My son is 21 and will graduate college next year. My girlfriend's oldest is starting college next year. 2nd oldest will be starting college the year after that and youngest will be in the 8th grade next year. I asked my girlfriend (of 7 years) about it and she doesn't want me to do it, mostly because she's scared something will happen to me. She's basically the "bread winner", but can't earn as much as she does without me. (Long story) I've asked her a hundred times to marry me (nothing to do with the bread) and she won't for various reasons. So as far as I'm concerned, I really don't care how she feels about it other than I feel for her being scared. Ok, rephrase that..... I care how she feels about it, but by God, if she won't marry me and I want to give someone a kidney, screw her, that's why. The other side of it is I'm 48. Both my parents died of Alzheimer's and supposedly that's hereditary. If I give this guy a kidney and die young, that's not the worst thing that could happen to me. I took care of both my parents during their illness and that has changed my outlook on life. I do have $250,000 life insurance so at the least, that'd get all the kids through college. What would you guys do? And maybe I'm just asking because I'm scared. But I'm not a *****. I don't know if I should try to help this guy or I should be looking after my family. That's where I'm stuck, not because I'm scared. I'm more scared of leaving my family than anything else. I know I can have a long, healthy life with one kidney, but yeah.... the luck thing..... I want to try to help this guy, but my greater obligation is to my family. I'm torn.